Remember multiple award winning ex-corps member, Progress Oberiko, who wrote the 2018 viral social media post about a mentally challenged “family of five” in Cross River State where she served? She has taken to her personal blog to pen down a “Suicide Note” in the most remarkable way. It is worth noting that her piece isn’t a suicide note as it sounds, but an incredible message on suicide. Read below;
MY SUICIDE NOTE – By Progress Oberiko.
SNIPER has been banned, but not these. Like an unsolved arithmetic, I have no answer to it. It’s there in my head It has become my nightmare. Deep in my thoughts, there it is, seated in confidence! We are entangled! There’s absolutely no way out. What have I not done in this life? How unfair can life be? I act like it’s all okay, just to meet up with the life, but here I am, in the middle of nowhere fizzling away.
I feel like God has blown me away like the beans shaft. I am dying inside. Yes, I have dreams, BIG DREAMS, but they remain mere dreams, as life has conditioned them to remain so, they never wake up. My mates are already in school, I’m here jambing JAMB; Still being posted by post-Ume. My mates are done and dusted, graduation and matriculation pictures flirting on my timeline. And you say I should hold on? Hold on for what? It’s too late for me already! ** ** *** My nudes leaked My reputation destroyed My dreams chattered No one cares I’m a disappointment to my family … And you say I should continue living? Live for what? When I can’t even raise my head in public. I feel like the worst person in this world! ** *** **
I am a good person, Oh yes I am! I have helped people, I do charity; But I can’t even get back the good I’ve done! Everyone plays dumb and oblivious of my condition. I feel useless, there’s no hope for me in this life! Too much bad luck! So unfortunate! Lemme just die! There’s nothing to live for! ** ** ** Ladies who are not even as beautiful as I am are getting married ** My guys, who are less intelligent than I am are getting jobs. They even found a wife! But me? What do I get?
NOTHING! What do you expect? No, tell me! They keep giving me useless hopes, “HOPE IN THE LORD”. Which hope? Has God not been aware of my situation? What did He do? ‘Have faith’, they say. Shut up! Don’t ever speak about faith to me! Don’t tell me about the Bible, cos there’s nothing I have not heard! It is ten months into the new year, oops, the “Old-New year”. December is already by the corner and boom! There comes 2020! What do I have to show for this year? Nothing! I can no longer condone this bugbear when sadness is spilling from my back pockets. And poverty running down my veins. I take full responsibility for my incapacitated ness, so allow me to surcease this tragedy called ‘LIFE’. I have had enough! ** ** *** ** ** *** As at 2018, Nigeria was ranked “6th” in annual suicide list. I wonder what position will be in our report card this year;
Oh Lord, do not allow us rise to first. This rise in suicide deaths is appalling, alarming and astonishing; it wasn’t so in the good old days. I can recall Chukwuemeka Akachi, a poet who dropped a suicide note on Facebook saying “He doesn’t wish to be a burden to anyone anymore, because he has been on life support which he claims to be expensive”; but he failed to realize that his own LIFE is far more expensive. He was a poet, he WRITES, but he had no RIGHT to take his own life, a life which only the “WRIGHT” has the power to control. He wrote in death’s language in the wildest ways, because he had had a rapport with death in his suicide mission. Like the myriad of other suicide deaths whose name I cannot even recall. …The guy who killed himself in Port Harcourt as a result of heartbreak. …The student who was found dead in her room after drinking sniper. …
The RCCG pastor in Abuja who took his own life,. And all other heartbreaking completed acts of suicide, including the ones that didn’t go viral. It is too much already! We begin to cultivate thoughts of suicide when we compare our man-made time with God’s. We program our time to automatically work for Him, Forgetting that His ways is not ours; 30yrs in your calendar is merely 3minutes on His wall clock! Brother hold on!
“GODS TIME IS THE BEST NOR MEAN SAY MAKE YOU GO TIFF WALL CLOCK COMMIT FROM CHURCH O”. What this means can be coined in one word – PATIENCE! Yes I have actually been contemplating suicide, but not in the context of “Taking my own life”, God forbid! Na me create myself? But rather I’ve been thinking about suicide in the context of “WHY DO PEOPLE TAKE THEIR OWN LIVES”? Why! So I’m writing this piece in the language of a suicidal; lending my voice to all those frustrated and are contemplating suicide; You need to come back to life, because by merely having the thoughts of suicide, you have started killing your self, you’re dying, you need to WAKE UP! In my definition; Suicide is a PERMANENT ELIMINATION of the SOLUTION to a TEMPORARY problem. Suicide most times seems like a gateway to freedom, and escape from all the trauma & wahala of life! But NO! It is instead a permanent termination of a generation full of SOLUTIONS! Your life is not even your own, do not take what you never gave! Say No To Suicide Don’t Do It! You know why? Because YOU are the SOLUTION to your problems. Trust God! When you say it is IMPOSSIBLE, – “He says All things are possible through Me”! Luke 18:27. When you say I am too tired, – He says “I will give you rest”! Matthew 11:28 When you say “Nobody loves me”, – He says “I have loved you with an everlasting love”! Jeremiah 31:3 When you say “I can’t do this anymore”, – He says “My Grace is Sufficient”! 2 Corinthians 12:9 When you say “I am not able”, He says “I AM Able”! 2Cor 9:8 NoToSuicide! #WorldMentalHealthDay! #Oct10